Why Would Anyone Want to Steal Your Dream?

It is unfortunate, but even well meaning friends and family have a tendency to do this. Especially when it comes to your weight loss journey.

They will offer ‘practical’ advice that says:
1. You shouldn’t try that, you’ll just hurt yourself
2. You know our family just has “the gene”, you’ll never be thin honey.
3. You’ve never been athletic, you’ll never be able to keep up with those videos
4. What if you fail and don’t succeed?

But you wanna know the the truth behind what they’re saying??  What they fear most is not that you fail, but that you actually succeed.

I’m afraid it’s human nature and it’s well documented by psychologists all over the world.  If people were honest with you, they’d just admit they don’t want you to do better than them.  It makes them uncomfortable.

Not that being fit or being overweight makes you better than anyone…but, that’s how most people perceive it.  So they’ll do their best to try to keep you at their level or better still beat you down lower than them.

In fact, many people secretly want you to fail so they can be proven right.  Very sad but very true.

I know by now you’re nodding in agreement, aren’t you, because you’re already thinking of people who  treat you this way? Am I right?

So what do you do about it?  I mean the big question isn’t really why they do it, it’s how you react to it…right?

Here’s  a few points that I often refer to.  They help keep me focused when it seems like everyone just wants push me down.  These ideas are by no means original to me but the thoughts but they are right on.

1. First, don’t take advice from people who aren’t where you want to be – they can’t help you. Only take advice from someone who has already accomplished what you are looking to do. Only those who are already at the destination you seek can help you find the your way.
2. For others who offer less than genuine concern for your chosen path, just smile and say ‘Thank you for your concern, but everything is going to plan’ and keep moving forward. Trust me, all the people who were ‘concerned’ about your well being will be surprisingly silent once you’ve shown your first signs of success.

So how do you keep your dream alive?

1. Be positive.  Resolve to not get caught up in the negativity of other people.
2. Do at least one thing every day that moves you  forward toward your goal. Little victories build on each other.
3. Find and associate with people who think like you.
4. Find people who are successful in the area you want to be and ask for their guidance. They’ve already accomplished what you want so it’s much easier for them to guide you.  Don’t look for them to tell you what to do!  But listen to them and apply it with your own flavor.  YOU are the only one that can make the decision to move forward with something.

What if you do hit a road block?

So what, find another way.  Or go around it, many times pressing through the dip in the road is best way to test your resolve and reach the green pastures on the other side.

You haven’t failed…forever anyway. You’ve just learned a valuable lesson. Be persistent – find another way.

Don’t listen to folks who want you to give up, if you do, you’ll just get more of what you’ve already got. And that’s not what you want, is it?

How do you know if your dream is big enough?

That’s Easy!

If you have a goal and you know exactly how to reach it without question, it’s not a worthy goal.  Because you already know how to do it. But if you have a goal, a dream, a desire that you want to achieve and don’t know how you are going to reach it – now that’s a goal worth having.

Stretch your mind and see what you happens.

Okay this post has been way tool long, so here are my closing thoughts.

1. Don’t live life without having a vision of where you want to be
2. Expect to succeed. Most likely won’t happen as fast as you want but stick with it if you really want it.
3. You will have naysayers, ignore them
4. You will have setbacks, press on
5. You will have failures, learn from them
6. You will have victories, savor them
7. You will reach goals, set new ones
8. You will attain your dream, celebrate it

And when you’ve attained your dream, pay it forward.  Share with others, there’s someone that needs to hear what you’ve got to say.

Remember, the DREAM IS YOURS – follow it and keep it away from the dreamstealers!